I have something to admit. I’ve been a little selfish lately. I haven’t been living as closely to my ideals as I’d like to be. I’ve been thinking a lot about how I can do better and something occurred to me just now.
All of the most successful people I know have built their life around one simple principle. They make other people’s lives better. They make sure that people are having a good time and feel good about themselves. While I was aware of this idea for sometime for whatever reason it never really resonated with me until now.
Not to give you a sob story or anything but 2018 was pretty trying. I was just trying to think about how “I” can get through it and how can “I” improve as a person and save “my” business. I was to focused on myself. And maybe sometimes we need that, I don’t know.
But what if instead of thinking about myself so much (because that’s worked brilliantly for the last 35 years, clearly) I put other people first for a change. Instead of worrying about how my tea business is going to it’s first thousand sales this year, I focus on how to make 1000 people’s lives better with tea. Maybe I should be blogging not simply for my own reasons but I should focus on thinking how I can make this blog (and my other two of course) better for you, the reader.
One of my favourite comedians, Dan Harmon, creator of Community and a little known show called Rick and Morty, once said that wanting to be the guy that made other people laugh was the highest form of ego.
I recently saw a meme on Facebook (I can’t find it now) where someone said that they don’t want to become rich because they want to buy expensive things. They said that they want to become rich so that they can do things for other people like leave $1000. They wanted to become rich, not to improve their own life but the lives of the people around them.
This I believe is a wonderful ideal, but here’s the thing. You don’t have to become rich to improve peoples lives. While you may not be able to change millions of lives, I think that it is well within your reach to do little things right now to make sure other people feel better.
So the question I have to ask now is “How can I help you?”
I’m a very scientific minded person so I was very interested in seeing the benefits and effects of meditation. I started with 5 minutes a day and after a few days I decided to push myself and go for 30+ minute sessions. I also tried different sitting positions.
Continue reading “Thoughts on Meditation from a Beginner”
Recently I had a reality check about the limited time we have on Earth. If we don’t make healthy choices and make the most of our lives it can cost us everything. I believe that our health is the single most important thing in our lives. Without it, we cannot enjoy our life as fully as possible.
I’m not saying we shouldn’t have our vices but that we should use moderation when we do get off track. There is a reason “everything in moderation” is conventional wisdom. It’s because it keeps from repeatedly making the same bad choices. Choices that more often than not we’d like to admit have dire consequences.
It was the first loss of a personal friend that I have ever experience so I am still not 100% sure how to deal with it. But my friends and family are saying I am handling it very maturely. I think it’s equally important to take time to reflect as it is to distract yourself from your loss. You don’t want to dwell on it but you also don’t want to deny yourself time to grieve. You have to look after yourself.
For me that means talking with my friends, getting out and exercising and doing a bit of gaming to take my mind off of things. I also decided to start educating myself about things my friend cared about. Causes concerning social and political problems. That’s how I plan to deal with this. For you that could mean something else.
I won’t get into the details of what happened but I just want to say that my friend Da Wei was a good guy whose life was cut short. He’ll be missed.
No such thing as luck or natural talent. All you have to do is put in the work. If you are a little further behind your goals than you want to be then just put in a little more work. You have to do it for you because no one who hasn’t been where you are will know the work you’ve put in. They’ll see the results but they will not see all the work. Do it because it’s part of who you are today and who you want to be tomorrow. Continue reading “Make Your Own Luck”
Today I decided to go back to the gym. I was a little nervous because I took some time off for the holidays. I wasn’t going to go but I decided not to let fear get the best of me. I could’ve just stayed home and plopped down on the couch, but that’s not going to get me back into shape. Continue reading “Use Your Imagination”
I’ve never been one to make NY resolutions as I found it kind of pointless. I was already doing what I wanted to be doing and didn’t need the New Year to remind myself to set goals and achieve them. Having worked at a gym it was a wonder to see hordes of people flood the gym only to vacate the gym by June.
The problem I see with people(including myself) setting goals is that they say they are going do something and then they don’t preserve. I’m horrible at that. It makes people think that you are all talk and no action. “But we can try!” I hear you saying to you device. And to that I’m going to tell you what someone told me.
My doc put a piece of paper in front of me and asked me to try and pick it up. So I picked it up. He then asked me “Did you try to pick it up or did you just pick it up?” I said I picked it up. My point is that Yoda was right when gave Luke that sage advice.
What I am doing this year is that I’m writing down my goals for the year and I’m not going to tell anyone about them until I’m done them. That way you avoid doubters and won’t and will feel more satisfied when you get it done.
Have a Happy New Year!
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I recently got tested for food intolerances and the results were not great. The results shows that I’m intolerant to dairy, eggs, some meats, barley and wheat. The results also showed that I have a lot of inflammation going on and my body is working too hard fighting it. I need to go egg-free, dairy-free and gluten-free to lower my inflammation. Continue reading “Doctor’s Orders”