I have something to admit. I’ve been a little selfish lately. I haven’t been living as closely to my ideals as I’d like to be. I’ve been thinking a lot about how I can do better and something occurred to me just now.
All of the most successful people I know have built their life around one simple principle. They make other people’s lives better. They make sure that people are having a good time and feel good about themselves. While I was aware of this idea for sometime for whatever reason it never really resonated with me until now.
Not to give you a sob story or anything but 2018 was pretty trying. I was just trying to think about how “I” can get through it and how can “I” improve as a person and save “my” business. I was to focused on myself. And maybe sometimes we need that, I don’t know.
But what if instead of thinking about myself so much (because that’s worked brilliantly for the last 35 years, clearly) I put other people first for a change. Instead of worrying about how my tea business is going to it’s first thousand sales this year, I focus on how to make 1000 people’s lives better with tea. Maybe I should be blogging not simply for my own reasons but I should focus on thinking how I can make this blog (and my other two of course) better for you, the reader.
One of my favourite comedians, Dan Harmon, creator of Community and a little known show called Rick and Morty, once said that wanting to be the guy that made other people laugh was the highest form of ego.
I recently saw a meme on Facebook (I can’t find it now) where someone said that they don’t want to become rich because they want to buy expensive things. They said that they want to become rich so that they can do things for other people like leave $1000. They wanted to become rich, not to improve their own life but the lives of the people around them.
This I believe is a wonderful ideal, but here’s the thing. You don’t have to become rich to improve peoples lives. While you may not be able to change millions of lives, I think that it is well within your reach to do little things right now to make sure other people feel better.
So the question I have to ask now is “How can I help you?”
Just wanted to wish you all that. I hope you all reach your goals and crush it next year!
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After a disappointing October, I’m back on track. I put on a lot of weight during Oct, but November has been pretty good. 290lbs in Oct. My heaviest weight to date. Now I’m 278 in Nov. I am disappointed but determined.
Continue reading “Down 12lbs.”
The other day I got thinking about the amount of time it takes become an expert in something. Conventional wisdom says that it takes 10000 hours of deliberate practice. You can’t just go through the motions and expect to get better at something you want to learn. You have to work on your weaknesses. Continue reading “Scheduling my time from now on.”
Recently I have put on more and more weight. I have been avoiding updating the blog for that very reason. It’s been frustrating and embarrassing. Especially since I don’t eat much junk food at all. Except for potato chips. They are just so damn delicious. My mouth waters just thinking about them.
I talked to my fitness trainer about it and asked for his advice. He told me to treat it as an addiction because chips aren’t like other types of food. You can’t have just one like the commercial says. When I got home from the gym, I wish I could say I threw out the remaining chips I had in the cupboard but I can’t imagine wasting food like that. The bag was almost finished so I finished it, crumpled up the bag and had my last chips.
That was yesterday. Today I went to the grocery store and walked right by the chips without a second thought. I am now on day one of no chips and so far it’s going great. I am going to try and make it until the end of the year. One of the things I’ll do to deal with the cravings is to drink water or tea. It’ll be tough but it’ll go a long way to helping me lose weight.
I’m a very scientific minded person so I was very interested in seeing the benefits and effects of meditation. I started with 5 minutes a day and after a few days I decided to push myself and go for 30+ minute sessions. I also tried different sitting positions.
Continue reading “Thoughts on Meditation from a Beginner”
Recently I had a reality check about the limited time we have on Earth. If we don’t make healthy choices and make the most of our lives it can cost us everything. I believe that our health is the single most important thing in our lives. Without it, we cannot enjoy our life as fully as possible.
I’m not saying we shouldn’t have our vices but that we should use moderation when we do get off track. There is a reason “everything in moderation” is conventional wisdom. It’s because it keeps from repeatedly making the same bad choices. Choices that more often than not we’d like to admit have dire consequences.
It was the first loss of a personal friend that I have ever experience so I am still not 100% sure how to deal with it. But my friends and family are saying I am handling it very maturely. I think it’s equally important to take time to reflect as it is to distract yourself from your loss. You don’t want to dwell on it but you also don’t want to deny yourself time to grieve. You have to look after yourself.
For me that means talking with my friends, getting out and exercising and doing a bit of gaming to take my mind off of things. I also decided to start educating myself about things my friend cared about. Causes concerning social and political problems. That’s how I plan to deal with this. For you that could mean something else.
I won’t get into the details of what happened but I just want to say that my friend Da Wei was a good guy whose life was cut short. He’ll be missed.